"I can't do it" never yet accomplished anything: "I will try" has accomplished wonders.

You say you are not into long distance relationship, you say I am interesting, I guess I am interesting enough for you to consider, you say if you want a quickie you will pay for that and it's cheaper than all these phone calls, you say you want to tell me something but I have to sit until Wednesday, you say that you don't care about the baby boy if he is yours, he is just too cute for you to ignore, you check on his horoscope, you keep saying that he is cute. What all that really means? That you actually care, you also day you can't raise a child, you do not know what to do with him. All this. Deep down I think you care, at the same time you also scare.

No great artist ever sees things as they really are, if he did he would cease to be an artist.

我想；其实你心里很害怕；只是你没有说。

The aim of an argument or discussion should not be victory, but progress.

老朋友相聚就是要这样；什么都能谈。真好。

Man has been endowed with reason, with the power to create, so that he can add to what he's been given.

do you like your brother? do you talk about life and perspective with your parents?

you are one crazy girl in a weird family.

i might be a lot of things.

the only one thing i want from you is take your time to know me better.

that is all.

We can often do more for other men by trying to correct our own faults than by trying to correct theirs.

compared to last night; this is really bad; i am not even saying a lot; maybe some questions and how i approach it annoys you; you shut me down; you say you don't feel like talking to me everyday; you just keep on saying i don't know; yet i insist i want to find out; this is your limit; i could have do the exact same thing to you; but i chose not to; then after a few minute you call back; what is the point? at the end you will choose to walk away anyway; that's the easiest way out; the easiest.

Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in getting up every time we do.

你和她的事；
请你不要；
千万不要；
告诉我。
please.

Most of us can, if we choose, make this world either a prison or a palace.

"If you have someone that you think is the one... don't just sort of think in your ordinary mind and think, OK let's make a date, let's plan this and make a party, we'll get married. Take that person and travel around the world. Buy a plane ticket for the two of you to travel all around the world and go to places that are hard to go to and hard to get out of. And if when you come back to JFK, when you land in JFK, and you're still in love with that person, get married at the airport." -- Bill Murray

我又收到一封你写的很长的信；说着你对世界的灰暗；还是一样的想法四十八年来的想法；母亲的去世看来完全没有为你带来解脱；反而得来的是更多的疑问；这世界上再也没有人理会你的存在；to verify and approve you; allow you to prove that you are worthwhile; now you simply become worthless; 我不能对你说什么去改变你的想法；我只能告诉你我对你的感觉；我不期望你对任何我说的话会有所感动；because you always do not care and you always act as you are feelingless, emotionless and heartless; 你时常问我能为我做什么我要的是什么；但是我只是想要你做回你自己；应该去问问你自己到底可以为你自己做什么；你也问我看好我们之间吗？will we work? will us work? 我回答你是可以的；我蛮肯定；因为我很喜欢你；but; yes there's always a but; BUT it will work only if you want this as bad as i do and only that. 如果我们真的必须去旅行穿越千山万水来证明我们之间这一段感情的存在；我想要告诉你的事我已经为了你做好了百分百的准备，而你呢？

Are you ready?

It is only possible to live happily ever after on a day-to-day basis.

we playing a game;
the more you think you piss me off;
the more i want to be kind;
that's why you want to piss me off even more;
in return of my kindness;
we playing a game;
totally reverse psychological game;
it's sick but it's fun.

Hope is necessary in every condition.

you text; you are back in town; for good; tell me about it later; glad to see you again; feeling strange; coz we said goodbye 2 years ago; now you are back; you were telling me about how have you been; not all good at first but you pull through nonetheless; that's life, right? we survive if you have the will to survive; just exactly like meeting an old friend; feels so natural; don't need to pretend; no awkwardness; we just randomly chit chat; i have knew you for 7 years; time really flies; it really really flies.

i wish you well, my friend, J. As always. All the best!

The world is a tragedy to those who feel, but a comedy to those who think.

Dear W,

when you ask me what do i want in my life and what can you do for me, do you really want to find out? are you really ready for the answer/ the truth? why do you want to know? what is the point of you asking?

what confuse me is that at times you don't seem to be ready to talk about things but at the same time you keep on throwing me questions that i find tricky to answer then i often contemplate whether you really want an answer or just simply asking? etc.

i don't assume you ask me just for fun; as i tend to reply you very seriously but i am afraid of the rejection and negative reaction/ remark i might get; hence i refuse to say; as much as it will scare me as it will scare you; the end result is that i might really freak you out. besides, you don't really need to ask or tell me what can we do for each other; we just need to DO it for each other and see what happens; that's basically the whole point anyway.

Through this few months of correspondence i have come to realize; as much as i want to be open about this whole thing; you just really need time - a lot of alone time and space before you can really start invite me truly into your world; things have to stay real without any element of surprise; at least not at this point in time; simply because maybe you are not quite ready, perhaps? but then am i ready? i can at least say i am willing to do things and make things work; if we make our decision to move forward; long distance relationship talk aside we haven't even really touch on the subject that are we or are we not in a relationship and ready to pursue it; it's all good and fun when we meet; we miss each other when we not; we are human being; we have feelings; but as much as feeling goes; where are we now? is there something we looking at together? what we want? a LONG TERM Relationship?

so unless we have a firm ground to work on based on whether or not we want to take the next step, asking what you can do for me a thousand times; or vice versa is very much irrelevant; at least for now to me is really pointless; what else can we do? we can meet up every once in a while, continue talking, texting, skyping but that's basically it, right? i might sound cold, cruel, harsh and very practical but please hear me out.

i want to put myself in your shoes and imagine all this sadness/ grieving period that you are going through endlessly, plus the space/ time you need in solitude; that is your upbringing, you are this person where i cant change (trust me, i don't want to change you!); this is your life; as i would asked you for the very same thing now which i also hope you understand where all my practicability coming from, my life, my experience makes me how i am and where i am. you may criticize my practically doesn't get me anywhere; i can take that; but without it; i could be worse, but nobody will know that now, right?

all this things, W, don't make us any less human, quite the contrary this is all the things that make us who we are; any less of that in me, i wont be sure if i will be able to touch you as how i did now. i hear it over and over again to you i am just this person with a very practical side where you blow it up/ magnify it ten billions times under your microscope; i hope this is not blocking you from seeing i am just a very vulnerable human being afterall. we have been through this conversation on how we wont teach each other about how to live/ what to do but will just live it as we are, remember?

i touch you because i am me, do you think you can accept that? 

Employ thy time well, if thou meanest to get leisure.

little by little, thing is changing and we know it.

Keep your broken arm inside your sleeve.

We are just being ourselves. We didn't do anything for each other. That's why and how we survive this thus far.

Adversity is the trial of principle. Without it, a man hardly knows whether he is honest or not.

Im going on minding my own business; we have been talking, texting daily ever since our weekend meet; I am happy; being here; living; the things that you told me I hope that you are also telling yourself the same because that is also the sort of thing I want you to do for yourself; you said you think about me a little more these days; missing me even; I used to be just “ok”; but now I seem to invade your mind; I hope someday soon enough your heart; I know you are leaving soon and suddenly decided maybe to take a trip with you; without mean to bother you; you ask me why do I want to come; but you never really take "just because" as an answer; because you say things are never just as simple as it seems; I just want to be with you and that's nothing but the truth; I never initiate anything until you mention it; we going back and forth on that idea and finally drop it because it just sounds too crazy at this point of time; I have to admit it is and I am just being my crazy spontaneous random self; I wish not force you and implying you must; I also don't want you to feel obligated; I am hardly intrusive; I am actually happy inside you feel that way, which means I am getting through to you; I am bothering you hard enough; this secretly thrills me.

The very act of believing creates strength of its own.

You know what the scariest part is, that this might actually work. 

The real glory is being knocked to your knees and then coming back. That's real glory. That's the essence of it.

I don't know what to do with you some day,

And you think I know what to do with you everyday. 

Optimism is essential to achievement and it is also the foundation of courage and true progress.

I'm seriously thinking about you that I never seriously thought about before. 

It is better to say, "This one thing I do" than to say, "These forty things I dabble in."

All these years, all these while, all you do is get rid if people. Push people away. But you know what, you can actually make something happen. What are you so afraid of?

What's gone, and what's past help, Should be past grief.

二十四小时的相见；我忘记了我隔藏你的讯息；我们嬉笑一场；有一些误会但是并没有影响彼此的心情反而更因为如此而明白了一些事；我们彼此都想念对方；能在行动中看出来；你告诉我你是第一次对任何人说起你母亲去世后的感觉；你在对我说；我很感动于你的分享；而我亦在感觉交错的瞬间告诉了你很多的事；很多在以往我并没有告诉你的事；我的旧感情；我和家人的相处等；我们激情的吻着抚摸着做爱着；我们分外的珍惜这短短的二十四小时；此行虽短但我俩无悔；你在短短的谈话中把我分析透彻；我哭得很凶；觉得没有人会了解我开解我；我往外跑躲在角落一直哭；但你拉起我的手抱起我紧紧的；你以为你能够一个人躲在角落然后认为没有人会关心你慰问你；这里有我；我还在；深夜我们到小印度逛逛喝喝谈谈；这个周末我好愉快；很久没有这样的快乐着；我没有想太多我们以后会怎样尽管其实我有在想但是未来的事没有人能说得准；有时候你会说很多其实你想让我觉得你根本不在意的话；但是一旦你这么说后其实我知道你是在意的即使只是一点点地在意；不然你怎么会已经让我把你的东西收着；已经说七月要再来探访；也说着我可以每一个星期过来；我无所谓；我只是怕你招架不住；无论如何这次我想我得尽量低调；以免再一次深陷谷底中；我输不起；真的。

The first virtue of all really great men is that they are sincere. They eradicate hypocrisy from their hearts.

Can I say something? I don't know it enough to give u advice, one hand I hear u r struggling with something u can't tell me about now, on the other hand about ur gf which I really don't know much about, to be fair I don't know both side of the story to comment, but i know people say what they say for a reason, sometimes saddening and upsetting thing but still they don't say it with no good reasons.

So I guess the best thing for u to do is to focus in task at hand and remember what u guys fighting for, longing for, do ur best and what u need to save this relationship if this is worth fighting for, then u can at least say u hv done all u can and ur best, no regret even after that u guys decided to walk away or be together. That much I know. :)

I wish you all the best for this trip.

So ya that's all I want to say so that I don't have to send u an email afterwards.

A hug? 

Every man is valued in this world as he shows by his conduct that he wishes to be valued.

you are all that ive got; you keep on saying that; it's not true; you know that; but you also have to know that you are hurting people that way with your so called shyness; discreetness; being secretive and all.

这个星期我们还是见了好几次；最后你说会去见老友约我同行喝杯酒；我无妨；他们我也认识；就谈着闹着看着大伙儿聊天的神情；有一位说的话我特别记得；为太太做的牺牲等等；那是爱；我在想；然后从谈话中知道你的旅程是与她一起过；我期望什么呢；但还是感觉难过；为什么你就不能告诉我呢；我们是朋友啊；如果你不想说那是你的选择我不能强迫你；我亦不想强迫你；何必呢？我们都七、八年的朋友了；我不是特别在意这件事；而是你累积着很多很多的事没有说；你说总有一天你会鼓起勇气告诉我；现在不是时候你也不知道如何启齿；你还说现在是你人生中最最低潮的时刻；你的难题和你女友无关；是另有缘由；我不明白也更本不可能去想象你的窘境；我也没有想过我能够帮什么忙；但你说见了我心安；我想就算了；和你计较什么呢；有资格去计较什么呢？

到最后；朋友；我只能祝愿你寻找到那一股你必须要的勇气去面对这一切然后找到你的幸福快乐。


“Trouble is a part of your life--if you don't share it, you don't give the person who loves you a chance to love you enough.” -- Dinah Shore

A happy life is one which is in accordance with its own nature.

"do you want to see me after work?";
you ask me carefully and discreetly;
i notice the difference.

Conscience is the inner voice that warns us somebody may be looking.

就为了泊车一事发脾气；不常常发生；就是有人这样笨；毫无对错可言；晚饭后拿车；居然没能开启车门；将遥控换电池结局一样；你就淡定的说乘的士到你家拿后备锁匙；在自己家搭的士象旅客一样；还来得及开玩笑呢；你的手机现在能够随时上网；真好；然后还是一样的讲起你以前的事业为你所赚来很多的钱；人生并不能两全其美；都是过眼云烟；快乐才是真真正正重要；我问你生日在那里过；才知道你要去印度尼西亚；我还以为你会回家；然后你轻轻捉住我的手，就这样轻轻捉住我的手。

You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face.

八年后的今天；回想起来我们去回我们第一次见面的餐厅吃晚餐；时光飞快；买给你的光碟不能看回到店里去交换；精挑细选了几张你喜欢的电影；照常有一句没一句的嬉戏着；去我家看吧？太晚了吧；我还要载你去邮政局呢？是你的故意安排还是你真的没有时间呢？很多时候我不能把你猜透；在车里电话响起；是她；我们无言；八年了；都已经八年了；还要说什么呢？不要再把这些放在心上了；是你的到最后始终会是你的；好好爱自己吧；这样就好；就是最好。

Those who don't know how to weep with their whole heart, don't know how to laugh either.

已经没有再想了，她怎么办呢？但我并没有正式听过你们的故事，我不能猜，我只是念了她写给你的信，你不为人知的秘密，原来一直这么多年了，那些痛楚，折磨，她还是忍耐下来，她还是爱你，依然全心全意想要和你有一个家，那么你的借口又是什么呢？真正的快乐又是什么？然后意识到你从来没有说过和我一起很快乐，我想我们就是这样的朋友，时不时在一起作伴的朋友，然后我想有很多种不同或不寻常的快乐。知道你要回乡一个月，没来得及和你庆生，买了一套光碟送你，希望你喜欢。你对你的伤还是很在意，痊愈的很慢，今晚不能和你睡，几次了，I feel embarrassed, 你当我是什么样的朋友呢？我会在意这些吗？不就是伤口吗？你也不想这样的？但是就是这一些小小的事情，让我觉得我们就是隔着一段距离，一段彼此都没有说出口的距离，这么陌生客气干嘛呢。还谈到纹身，剪发，到海边，野餐，最后都没有，但我都不在乎啦，这些都无关重要，就只是一直想要你好，怕我自己做得不好。但纹身是这么大的决定呀，不能随便，为什么突然？为什么那个图案？就是喜欢，就是想，但应该有比较深入的答案吧，你也五十三岁人了，有时候人生的决定也不是年轻时就想到的，很多就是以后和现在的事，你收到一则朋友父亲去世的短讯眼眶红了一下，而当你常常在想别人想什么的时候我也好奇你其实在想什么，我也三十六岁了，你也不用对我好像小孩一样了，好吗？