This isn't good or bad. It's just the way of things. Nothing stays the same

Don't flatter yourself that friendship authorizes you to say disagreeable things to your intimates. The nearer you come into relation with a person, the more necessary do tact and courtesy become. Except in cases of necessity, which are rare, leave your friend to learn unpleasant things from his enemies; they are ready enough to tell them.-- Oliver Wendell Holmes, The Autocrat of the Breakfast-Table, 1858